Comments on: HAVE YOUR CHILDREN SPAYED AND NEUTERED

By: Janis

Janis — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 02:20:58 +0000

If you want to make the questioner/pusher uncomfortable, give them the impression (directly or indirectly) that you are trying to have babies and are not able. Kind of along the lines that I advise my husb. to tell people he is allergic to mushrooms instead of having to explain that he just doesn’t like them, doesn’t want to try them, No, really, doesn’t even want a little bite to see if maybe he’s changed his mind, etc. People who choose not to have children should be allowed the choice. And people who choose not to eat mushrooms, well… maybe just a little.

By: Nen

Nen — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:32:07 +0000

I say one of your best articles Sara!

I think that more people should explore the idea that just because you are able to have children…doesn’t necessarily mean you should! Ask an abused child about that.

And Nat, we could go round and round….but I disagree w/you about “more people make the world better”. Maybe you need to spend some time interacting w/the people I’ve been forced to interact. You might just change your mind
And just because the world theoretically has enough resources to support more people, doesn’t necessarily mean people can ACCESS those resources.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:26:58 +0000

Shannon-Thank you for your find. I don’t believe for a second that all men share the bumbling brains which would allow them to all forget to take birth control. Just as I don’t believe that all women would remember to do the same. I can barely remember which colour my hair is from month to month.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:55:48 +0000

@Sara, another post about men taking birth control. http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/1nQaxo/www.heartlessdoll.com/2010/02/why_is_the_male_birth_control_pill_so_hard_to_unde.php/r:t

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:33:51 +0000

http://www.blogher.com/would-you-really-trust-man-take-birth-control-pills

By: Nay

Nay — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:19:19 +0000

You tell them girl. Just say no to drugs… I mean kids.
I have to say I think our current methods of birth control suck. Wish there were better ways.

By: Nat

Nat — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:12:35 +0000

Being the other Almirall who wants kids, I’m backing Jane on this one.

I also disagree, vehemently, with the overpopulation argument. 1) More people make the world better; 2) The contributions of a single individual run a risk of overpopulating so close to zero that it may as well be; 3) Julian Simon was right.

By: pancake`

pancake` — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:24:45 +0000

well – before I play devil’s advocate, allow me to preface this by saying that I think it’s a sad commentary on our society that a doctor would be so unethical as to perform 10 plastic surgeries (in one day, no less) on a 23 year old woman who is neither deformed or burned beyond recognition – but won’t make it easier for a 33 year old woman to make an informed decision about her reproductive choices. But, I understand that we live in a litigeous society and the medical professionals are probably trying to protect themselves from lawsuits.

After completing my undergraduate education, I asked my parents for tube-tying surgery as a graduation present – they thought I was kidding and I got plane tickets instead. I was certain that I didn’t want children until I was about 29 or 30 – I am one of those people who changed my mind and so it is a good thing that I didn’t go for the surgery when I was younger. I guess my point is here, I changed my mind (which by no means implies that you will, I am merely speaking for myself) and anyone who knew me then wouldn’t believe that I have two bebes now – So it is a reasonable concern with the medical professionals that women may change their minds about these things. I believe you have the right to do what you choose with your own body, but think it’s ethical for doctors to have intensive consultations (including mental health evaluations) before preforming any permanent surgeries of any kind.

This is why I am a huge advocate of men taking more responsibility for birth control – they have options too.
Soapbox Dismount!

By: fizzy

fizzy — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:26:25 +0000

welcome to my world babe.

I knew forever I didn’t want kiddies. It’s hard but be strong eventually they’ll shut up and go away. It was hell in Switzerland/Italy. Children are the it thing. If you don’t have kids you’re sick, wrong or something else…

my pat answer has always been I don’t see the point in procreating more children into a world already overpopulated. I was doing my part for the environment…hard to argue with that argument.

hugs from another one of the childless by choice….